Midlife is Not a Crisis

I am getting so sick and tired of hearing the term "Mid-Life Crisis" It sounds like a sickness or a disease or something. When it's something that happens to all of us sooner or later...then it's not a crisis. It is NORMAL. Consider this writing your Mid-Life Crisis rescue blog.



Whenever you hear those words "Mid Life Crisis" you picture a 40 year old looser in an unbuttoned silk shirt, exposing his disgustingly hairy chest. He's over doing it with the fake gold chains around his neck and the over sized medal ion. Right now, even as we speak, he's probably in the nightclub trying to pick up chicks half his age. Maybe he's even out on the dance floor busting some 20 year old moves.



Perhaps he just bought a shiny new red sports car...anyway, long story short, he's out doing all kinds of goofy things trying recapture his youth. The thing is, he's making a really big fool of himself, and he's too stupid to even know it. Hopefully he'll come to his senses, perhaps settle down, accept that he's getting old....then eventually shut up and sit down.



This kind of guy needs to start acting his age, right? He needs to get out of the way and let the younger people take over the business, right? After all, he's getting older and he might hurt himself...better slow down. He should be out buying a rocking chair and preparing for retirement right?



Yup, he's getting old alright.......and we all know.... old people are completely useless...right?



Now...that is incredibly stupid. I am 51 years old and I don't believe a word of it. Even though I never actually hear people make asinine statements like that, I do perceive that is the way that people look at someone in mid life. I resent people painting me into that kind of picture.



There is nothing wrong with being middle aged. I LOVE IT. I am smarter than I was 20 years ago. Depending on how often I hit the gym, sometimes I'm a little stronger. I still jog regularly. I don't actually look old, so women half my age still hit on me.



There is some unwritten law somewhere that says that once you reach middle age, you are not allowed to dream any more. You don't get to try new things. I refuse to cooperate. I believe that if a person has unfulfilled dreams...they should make like a NIKE commercial and "Just Do It". When you're an adult, you don't need permission. JUST DO IT.



The only thing I suggest... is that you go forward...not back. By that... I mean, Why go to the dance club trying to pick up young chicks? Why try to impress a bunch of younger people who are stuck on a default setting? Why do you want to be like them? They should want to be like you. A night club is like a kindergarten to me. Aim higher.



As an older guy, my tastes have changed. I like doing things bigger and better. My focus is on creating a successful business, creating new things and seeing new things... running right up to the edge of adventure and jumping off. Who's Idea was it to get old at 40...50...60...or 70 ? Who makes that decision? I never had that conversation. Sorry, I never got the memo. So consider me exempt.



Why is it society gets so uncomfortable when they see a middle ager stretching his wings? I see nothing wrong with pursuing lost or forgotten dreams. As long as you are healthy, you'd be surprised at what you can do. My advice is stay active and don't let people bury you before your time.



I have learned that the key to realistically making a dream come true... is have realistic expectations. Next create a plan. Then execute a series of small stepping stone goals that lead up to your big "FINAL GOAL". If you are 50... you don't try to accomplish your goals with the mind of a 30 year old.



If you are 50... you don't execute your plans to accomplish your goal like some 20 year old. Not like a 15 year old....a 10 year old.....not a 5 year old. What does that mean? I'm glad you asked.



If you are 4 or 5 years old, you tie a bed sheet around your neck and pretend to be Superman. You learn that jumping off the bed or the couch does not result in flight because of gravity. Though you have a deep longing passion for flying, it remains a fantasy, because you are a kid....you lack the intellectual tools to achieve flight. You lack the financial tools to achieve flight. You lack attention span needed to figure out what it takes to fly.

As an adult, hopefully, you are now smarter, financially able and more focused when it comes to pursuing life goals.



As an adult, if you still have that very wonderful childlike passion for flying, you realize that jumping off the couch wont get the job done. By now you will have figured out if you realistically want to fly, it wont happen because of a makeshift superhero cape fashioned from a bed sheet.

You may have to build an airplane, perhaps you'll choose to go hang gliding, you might even take a balloon ride or even do some parachute jumping. However you get it done, it will be with real methods.



So, if you're going thru a mid life "crisis" and you are metaphorically jumping off the couch...slow down and try my "Build an Airplane-Go Hang Gliding" formula. It's free. Mid life does not have to be a crisis. Being older isn't so bad and I don't want someone to make me feel like I need to apologise for it. I like being 51.



Yes, I have a lot of goals that I still want to accomplish, even at age 51...But I think you can see from the "Build an Airplane-Go Hang Gliding" formula, I have a level headed approach to these goals. Whoever you are out there... I just want to tell you... I am in your corner. I say, if you want to pursue a forgotten dream,....... then you go for it.